Wednesday, 16 April 2025

A Love Letter Gone Wrong

Life is wildly unpredictable. Often, when a person stops seeking love and turns inward—toward healing, self-growth, and peace—someone unexpectedly walks in. This someone doesn’t arrive with grand gestures or dramatic flair, but rather with quiet charm and gentle words that stir emotions thought to be buried. It’s in those unguarded moments that love reintroduces itself, reminding the heart of how breathtakingly beautiful it is to feel seen, to feel chosen, and to feel again.

In those moments, doubt often takes the lead. It feels almost surreal—too sudden, too perfect, too fragile to be real. After building walls and promising ourselves we won’t fall again, there’s hesitation in every step forward. But love has a way of gently tugging at the heart, asking for just one more chance. And somehow, despite the fear, despite every reason not to, we take that leap of faith. We let ourselves believe, once more, that maybe this time will be different.

And then, without warning, everything changes. The person who once felt like a safe place, who showed up with consistency and warmth, begins to slip away—quietly, confusingly. The messages stop, the calls fade, and the energy that once lit up the days vanishes like it was never real. No explanations. No closure. Just silence where there was once laughter. It leaves behind a mess of unanswered questions and a storm of emotions that can’t quite find where to land.

Eventually, the closure comes—not with honesty or deep reflection, but with phrases that feel rehearsed, like “you deserve better.” It's meant to soothe, but instead, it stings. Because if deserving better was so obvious, why did it take months of shared moments to realize it? Why did love bloom only to be uprooted with a sentence that feels more like an escape than an explanation? And yet, buried beneath the hurt, there's a quiet truth: maybe deserving better is exactly the point—and maybe, just maybe, it’s the beginning of something more honest, more whole.

What many don’t realize is the emotional wreckage left behind when they flip the switch without warning. That sudden distance, that shift from presence to absence, doesn’t just confuse—it scars. It leaves the other person questioning their worth, their reality, their every memory. And when the only explanation offered is “you deserve better,” it may sound noble, but it’s often just a polished exit. What they fail to see is that, in saying those words, they’re not lifting the other person up—they're saying, “You didn’t even deserve me trying to stay.” And that’s a wound silence can’t heal.

There comes a point when the heart, tired of being mishandled, decides it's time to close the door to love—not softly, not temporarily, but with finality. This time, it’s not just about shutting the door; it’s about locking it, sealing it with everything that’s left, and throwing the key into the depths of an ocean so vast it could never be retrieved. It’s not out of bitterness, but out of self-preservation. Sometimes, choosing not to feel is the only way to begin healing.

When someone who once cared with their whole soul chooses never to open their heart again, it's not because they stopped believing in love—it's because love stopped being kind to them. They gave wholeheartedly, listened deeply, loved fearlessly, and in return, were met with silence, with absence, with a goodbye disguised as kindness. So now, the heart that once beat louder for someone else grows quiet. It learns to protect itself, to stay hidden behind walls built not out of hatred, but out of the ache of being too vulnerable in a world that didn’t hold them gently.

Wednesday, 9 April 2025

Book Review - Shiv Sutras


Every once in a while, a book comes along that doesn't just speak to your mind—it reaches into your soul, sits there quietly, and just listens with you. Shiv Sutras by Ranjit Chaudhari is one of those rare reads.

I picked up this book on a whim and what I expected was a dense philosophical text. What I got instead was a deeply personal, beautifully simple, and quietly profound journey into the heart of stillness.

Simplicity That Speaks Volumes

Ranjit Chaudhari has a way of presenting deep spiritual truths in the most digestible way possible. The sutras themselves are short—often just a line or two, but packed with presence. What makes this version really stand out is the commentary. It doesn’t feel preachy. It’s more like having a wise friend sit down with you and say, “Hey, let’s just be there for a moment.”

Each sutra is a doorway, and the commentary walks you gently through it. You don’t need to be a scholar or have any prior background in Kashmir Shaivism to connect with the material. The language is warm, human, and grounded.

What Stayed With Me

There are so many lines that made me pause, re-read and just breathe. This book isn’t meant to be rushed through. 

One of my favorite things is how the book doesn’t tell you what to believe—it invites you to notice. To notice awareness, stillness, the space between thoughts. And somehow, that invitation alone starts to shift something inside.

More Than Just A Book

Reading Shiv Sutras felt like sitting by a quiet lake. It wasn’t about “learning” in the traditional sense—it was more about remembering. Remembering that who we are isn’t the noise, the roles, the constant doing—but something way quieter, vaster, and more peaceful.

It’s the kind of book I see myself returning to over and over, especially on days when life feels loud and overwhelming.

Final Thoughts

If you're someone who enjoys spiritual writing that’s gentle, meditative, and real, Shiv Sutras by Ranjit Chaudhari is a gem. It’s not flashy. It won’t try to impress you with intellectual acrobatics. But it will sit quietly next to your heart and remind you of what’s always been there.

Read it slowly. Sit with it. Let it breathe through you. And maybe, just maybe, you’ll start to hear the silence between the words.

Overall - 3 star

Tuesday, 8 April 2025

Book Review - Don't Believe Everything You Think


We’ve all had those moments when our thoughts feel like they’re controlling us, leading to stress, anxiety, or just an overwhelming sense of uncertainty. But what if I told you that not all thoughts are worth believing? In "Don't Believe Everything You Think," Joseph Nguyen dives deep into the concept that our thoughts are often inaccurate reflections of reality, and learning to challenge them can improve our mental clarity and overall well-being.

I picked up this book because, like many of us, I’ve struggled with negative self-talk, overthinking, and getting trapped in mental loops. Here's what I learned from it.

One of the highlights of the book is how Nguyen breaks down various cognitive distortions – the habitual ways our brains misinterpret situations, leading us to false conclusions. He provides readers with the tools to challenge these distortions through mindfulness, self-awareness, and cognitive behavioral techniques (CBT).

What I appreciated the most about this book is the simplicity and relatability of its content. Each chapter is filled with exercises that are easy to implement into daily life, which is perfect for anyone looking to make real changes in their thought patterns.

You can expect these as your Takeaways:

  1. You are not your thoughts: One of the most powerful lessons I took from this book is that your thoughts do not define you. Just because you think something doesn’t mean it’s true. This realization alone is liberating – it gives you the space to question your assumptions and be less affected by negative self-talk or intrusive thoughts.

  2. Identifying Cognitive Distortions: The book provides insight into how we all tend to fall into certain cognitive traps like "all-or-nothing thinking," "catastrophizing," or "overgeneralization." By recognizing these patterns, you can start to dismantle them and build healthier thought habits.

  3. Mindfulness as a Tool: One of the most practical strategies shared is mindfulness. Nguyen suggests practicing mindfulness to become more aware of the present moment and step away from automatic reactions to our thoughts. This helps prevent us from getting caught in mental spirals and offers more control over our emotions.

  4. Challenging Your Thoughts: The idea of “thought challenging” is incredibly powerful. The book teaches how to pause when a thought arises and ask yourself questions like, “Is this thought based on facts?” or “What is the evidence for and against this thought?” This approach helps create mental distance from your thoughts and allows for a more rational perspective.

I highly recommend "Don't Believe Everything You Think" to anyone who struggles with negative thinking patterns or wants to improve their mental health. Whether you’re dealing with anxiety, self-doubt, or simply looking to lead a more balanced life, this book offers valuable insights and practical tools.

Overall - 4 star